As a couple, you have probably explored sex toys and enjoyed many intimate encounters together. You have now reached a point in your relationship where you want to try something new and different. And not long ago, out of curiosity, you remember searching online for the best dildos for pegging. "Hmmm," you thought. "We've never tried a pegging experience before. I wonder what that could be like?"
Perhaps your lover has expressed a desire to explore different sensations, including power dynamics and role play. And although you have both experimented with dildos and strap ons in the past, you're looking for a unique kind of experience.
Now, moving forward with a comfort level securely intact, you've had the conversation with your partner, and you are both ready to try pegging. Where do you start? What kind of toys will you use? Let's examine the ins and outs (pun intended!) of pegging for first-time users.
What Is Pegging?
First, pegging refers to a sexual activity where a woman anally penetrates her male partner, using a dildo combined with a strap-on harness. This practice can be performed on any male, regardless of his sexual orientation, as long as all parties have expressed consent.
There are many reasons why a male/female couple would engage in pegging. Perhaps the woman would like to use a strap on the harness and pegging dildo as a giver instead of a receiver. Or maybe the male counterpart is curious about exploring prostate play and having his p spot stimulated through anal penetration. Perhaps this couple would like to try playing with power dynamics, with the woman acting as the aggressor. Most of all, couples who want to try pegging are doing so because they find the idea sexy, fun, and an interesting way to spice up their sex life.
Regardless of the reason, pegging is a perfectly normal sexual practice that can be enjoyable for all parties, as long as you are safe and understand the use of various sex toys. The best pegging experience will happen when your knowledgeable, comfortable, and relaxed!
Societal Norms
Unfortunately, much of our mainstream and sexually repressed society shames men who are curious or engaging in pegging. Particularly for men who identify as heterosexual, the sexual practice of pegging, where a woman penetrates them with a dildo, is seen as taboo.
However, this attitude is not only ridiculous in nature, but it also fails to recognize the pleasure that can be found by stimulating the p-spot (which is similar to the g-spot in women). Don't let sexual ignorance rob you from exploring safe, consensual sexual practices.
Men of every sexual orientation deserve to feel pleasure and to try different activities with a partner that they trust. And for women, it can be exciting to be in a more assertive role as the giver of such enjoyment.
How Do Pegging Dildos Work?
A pegging dildo is very similar to a regular dildo that is used for vaginal penetration. It's a sex toy that can be combined with a strap on harness or even manually, sans harness, depending on its design.
As far as these sex toys go, one main difference is the base of the toy. If you are penetrating someone anally, you'll either want to use strap-on dildos or a dildo with a flared base.
In most cases, a pegging toy combined with a strap-on harness is the best way to go. But first, you are going to need to find both a pegging dildo and a strap-on harness that feels comfortable for both the 'giver' and the 'receiver.'
Finding the Right Strap-On Harness
We suggest visiting a sex toy store as a couple or check online for a pegging kit that will offer everything in one package. It's also important that the 'receiver' feels at ease with the size and shape of the pegging dildo itself.
The person who will be wearing the strap-on harness will need to make sure that the harness fits their body. You'll want to purchase a harness that is easy to slip on, which fits snugly around the hips. A good-fitting harness will help to keep the pegging dildo in place so that you can focus less on the sex toy and more on your partner.
When you purchase your harness, make sure that you are buying o-rings (unless your harness kit comes with rings). O-rings attach to strap-ons to help keep the pegging dildo in place. To fasten, simply thread the pegging dildo through the opening of the strap-on harness and connect the base of the sex toy through the loops.
For those new to pegging toys and or even if you are new to wearing a harness, it's best to use smaller o-rings to start. This is because your partner will most likely choose a small pegging dildo; to begin with, the rings will need to be a suitable size for the harness itself.
However, as you and your partner continue to explore pegging, the choice and size of the dildos used may increase. Once that happens, you can purchase larger rings or even a different harness kit entirely. However, for the best first-time experience, make sure that everyone is on board with the chosen sex toys and that your harness offers a comfortable and relaxed fit.
Why Use a Pegging Dildo?
When it comes to sex toys, not all dildos are created equally! While it may seem that you could use various dildos in your pegging adventure, there are benefits to choosing a proper pegging dildo, especially for first time experiences.
If you consider the shape of many dildos on the market, not all of them may be suitable for anal penetration. We mentioned the importance of using a sex toy with a flared base, but there are other characteristics in pegging dildos that make them best for anal penetration.
Why Choose An Anal Dildo?
A pegging dildo that is specifically designed for anal sex is your best bet to begin with. Unlike more realistic-looking penis dildos, which are more commonly used for vaginal penetration, pegging dildos are typically thinner and smoother, similar to the shape of a finger. Especially for beginners, the best type of pegging dildo is free of ridges and textures, making them easy to insert into the anus. The slick and even design also makes this item easy to clean.
That's not to say that eventually, you might be able to use a regular dildo, but we recommend choosing pegging toys. The receiver will find it more comfortable and probably less intimidating! Unlike the vagina, the anus does not offer the same kind of an easy stretch, and such textures found along a more standard dildo could offer more discomfort than pleasure.
Stimulating The P Spot
When choosing your strap ons, harness, and toys, it's best to keep in mind that you will want to stimulate the p spot, another word for prostate. And your penetrative sex toy (the pegging dildo) must be shaped to do just that!
So how do you know if your dildo is right for pegging and p spot pleasure? First, pegging dildos should offer some curve so that you can stimulate the p spot as you thrust.
Second, whoever is on the receiving end will most likely prefer more length than girth. In addition to the anus being less accommodating to the vagina, the pegging dildo should be long enough to hit the prostate. Since the p spot is located approximately four inches inside the rectum, you will want to choose dildos for at least that long.
Third, the best pegging dildos offer a bulbous end. The small, ball-shaped tip will provide a pleasurable sensation as it hits the p spot, making it easy to arouse that region. Another bonus to using pegging dildos will bulbous ends is that they can also stimulate the g spot in women. There is no reason why these versatile sex toys can't be used for double duty!
However, if you decide to go that route, make sure that you clean the pegging dildo thoroughly (as well as use a condom on the dildo when penetrating your partner anally).
Different Types of Pegging Dildos
Like all sex toys, there are a variety of different kinds of pegging dildos available to consumers. It's also worth considering if you would like to choose a complete strap on harness kit or if you want to buy your pegging dildo a la carte. Regardless of your choice, it's essential to choose pegging toys that are easy to use and easy to clean.
First, discuss with your partner to determine what you're looking for so that you both can enjoy the best experience possible. With so many choices of pegging toys, it's easy to get overwhelmed.
Below, we explore the types of pegging toys and strap on dildos that are available to you.
1. Strap On Dildos
The most common way to engage in pegging is to use a strap on dildo. The dildo is inserted into the harness while the strap on keeps the item in place. It may take some getting used to for beginners who are doing the thrusting, but eventually, they will find this easy to use-it's all in the hips!
One advantage to using pegging dildos with strap ons is the variety of harnesses available to the wearer. Some versions fit like underwear, or there is also the typical 'jock-strap' design.
With some models, the harness may also include a bullet vibe, which offers the 'giver' additional stimulation while they are pegging their partner. However, not every harness comes with a pocket in which to tuck in a vibe. That said, such toys can also be purchased separately if the person wearing the strap would like to experience additional sensations.
2. Strapless Pegging Dildos
In theory, strapless pegging dildos are a fantastic idea. The strapless dildo concept is that the female partner can insert one end of the dildo inside her vagina while pegging her partner with the other end.
Pros to Using A Strapless Dildo
What makes this design so appealing is that the insertable end can hypothetically stimulate her g spot simultaneously as she penetrates her male lover. Using a strapless pegging dildo removes the bulkiness of wearing an additional item, like a harness. The strapless model can make it seem like the dildo is a part of your own body, which lends itself to a potentially more intimate experience.
Some couples love this option because there is less chance of distraction compared to using a strap-style harness. With a strapless dildo, the woman just inserts it into her vagina, adds some lube, and you are both ready to go! This model cuts down on the need to include other products in your pegging experience.
Cons To Strapless Models
However, there are a few disadvantages to using a strapless dildo. While the idea sounds great, these toys don't always offer the best design.
First, some models do not allow enough space between the insertable end and the penetrable end, depending on the manufacturer. What ends up happening is that one end of the strapless dildo sits too close to the woman's body, at the wrong angle. The dildo then ends up pointing more upwards instead of outwards, making it impossible to penetrate her partner properly.
The other issue that the end of the strapless dildo is supposed to go inside the woman is not long or bulbous enough. This makes it challenging for the woman to hold the dildo inside her body properly. Even with Kegel exercises (clenching your pelvic floor muscles so that your vagina can 'grip' the end of the dildo), this still may not work. For the woman to hold on to the dildo, the end needs to be longer and girthy enough.
Finally, strapless dildos are not made for beginners. There are some strapless models out there that are of higher quality and provide a more useful design. However, if you're looking to penetrate your partner for the first time (or third, fourth, or fifth!), your best bet is to separately purchase the harness and dildo. Once you become more familiar with the hip action and positions required for pegging, you can move on to move advanced toys.
3. Consider Using A Double!
What's a "Double," you may ask? In the world of strapless dildos, Doubles are the Cadillac of sex toys! Doubles are basically 'double-ended dildos,' where the insertable end is as long (or at least, almost as long!) as the penetrable end. As the woman inserts her end, she will notice that it's long enough to hit her G-spot, which offers a great source of pleasure and is far easier to use than the more commonly marketed strapless dildo.
It's actually strange that the two designs are called by different names when they offer the same type of experience. But if you and your partner are new to pegging and you really want to enjoy this activity without using a strap or your hands, it's best to specifically look for 'Doubles' as opposed to 'strapless dildos.'
While Doubles can come with a harness, some models stand alone as well. Also, with regards to pegging, you will want to choose a smaller version that is more suitable for anal penetration. There are many different Doubts to choose from, but some may be too large to insert into the anus.
4. Bundles for Best Value
Obviously, when a strap-on harness kit comes with a dildo, that option is going to offer the best value for your money. However, there are some factors to consider when opting for a package.
While everyone wants to get the best bang for their buck (pun intended!), it's important to use quality pegging dildos and pegging toys that properly fit your strap on harness. The best pegging toys will also offer an easy, comfortable fit as you penetrate your lover.
One bonus, aside from cost, is that bundled kits that include dildos are designed to fit that particular harness properly. This means that you don't need to separately purchase the harness and wonder if the dildo remains secure.
However, the downside to a strap-on harness kit is that the actual pegging toys are often not the best quality. Some manufactures skimp on materials to make the package more affordable. This perceived value may entice those new to peg, especially if you are unfamiliar with sex toys.
We recommend that you and your partner explore the variations available to see which pegging dildo is right for you!
Tips for Pegging
Now that you have information on the best pegging dildos to use, as well as how to incorporate a strap-on into your intimate play (unless you choose to go with a strapless dildo instead), it's essential to learn the basics of pegging.
As the 'top' or 'receiver,' we know that you're looking for ways to create the best penetration experience for your partner. In addition, you (as the 'top') need to get the most pleasure out of pegging as well, particularly if you want to enjoy some g-spot stimulation.
1. Begin with Foreplay
Like any sexual activity, foreplay for both the 'top' and 'bottom' is essential for mutual enjoyment, especially when it comes to pegging. As a couple, you have probably covered the basics of consent or even picked out your toys together. So what happens now, once you are in the bedroom?
First, it's important to finesse the anal area. But before you do, why not engage in a bit of mutual satisfaction? Play around with some exciting oral to get you both in the mood. The receiver should also be properly stimulated well so that everyone is feeling aroused and ready to go!
Include such actions as rimming (licking the sensitive area around the anus) or inserting a finger into the bum. This will warm up your partner and prepare them for more intense penetration.
2. Condoms and Lube, Lube, Lube!
When it comes to pegging, there is no such thing as using too much lube. Unlike the vagina, the anus does not secrete fluids when aroused, so it's crucial to lubricate the area properly. Failing to do so may cause pain or even damage the delicate tissue. Also, the anus does not stretch in the same way the vagina does, which is why copious amounts of lube are so important.
You should also use a condom with your dildo. It goes without saying that any anal penetration will include some feces and a condom to keep the dildo free of bacteria and germs.
3. A Word About Anal Douches
Some folks may prefer to douche before anal penetration. Anal douches can help eliminate fecal matter from the rectum and create a more comfortable experience for everyone.
That said, douching is not necessary; it's a personal choice. If you prefer to go the route of douching, there are a few different options that you can explore. That said, pegging is different from anal sex with a penis because you are using a toy. So as long as you use a condom and clean your toys properly afterward, douching can remain an optional step.
4. Be Gentle!
The anus is a tight, little hole, so always be careful and go slow. Once the dildo gets back the sphincter muscle, the tension may ease up. But continue to check in with your bottom to ensure that they are comfortable and enjoying themselves; this is where 'active consent' comes in.
There may be positions that your bottom finds easier, such as doggy style. Experiment with different movements to see what feels best. Also, at the top, you can stimulate other areas of the body, such as the nipples or the testicles, to excite your bottom and provide different kinds of pleasure,
How to Choose the Right Pegging Dildo
With so many dildos available to pegging enthusiasts, how can you know which item will provide the best pegging experience? To determine the best pegging dildos for you and your partner, let's examine some basics to look for when searching for the best products on the market. As always, it's best to choose dildos that are also easy to clean.
1. Good Vibrations
Women who enjoy a little extra stimulation while pegging their partner may want to explore dildos that offer a bullet vibe. However, the placement of the vibe within the strap-on itself is key to clitoral enjoyment. Typically, a tiny pocket is located on the inside of the strap where a bullet vibe can be inserted.
That said, depending on the design, the vibe may be a bit too high for the wearer of the strap, making it impossible for the vibrations to hit the right spot. If you are a woman who wants to enjoy a thrill of her own, check the actual harness to ensure that the location of the vibe is where you will need it to be.
2. Lock N' Load!
While shopping around for the best pegging toys, why not consider an additional accessory! The Vac-U-Lock is a harness kit that includes everything you and your partner need to enjoy the best pegging encounter.
Included in a Vac-U-Lock system are such items as a strap-style harness, dildos of various materials and sizes, adapters, talcum powder (to avoid chafing) vibrating attachments. The incredible Vac-U-Lock bundle, created by Doc Johnson, offers couples the opportunity to switch out various toys to create unique experiences that can be tailored to their needs. This will allow you to fulfill the best pegging fantasies that you can imagine!
3. Sucker for Suction
A good suction cup dildo offers tons of hands-free enjoyment! This item is perfect for the solo individual who loves pegging but may not have a partner with whom to peg them. The suction cup dildo can be mounted to any solid surface, such as walls, bathroom tiles, or wood.
The suction cup base allows for an exciting pegging experience while using your hands to pleasure yourself. Another bonus to using a suction cup dildo is that you can slowly ease yourself into pegging at your own pace by exploring positions and depth that feels most comfortable. It's a great way to begin your pegging adventure!
4. Hit the Spot!
Again, there is nothing more exciting for female tops who do the pegging than some additional g-spot action! Double-ended dildos are a great choice for additional g-spot stimulation. Check the end inserted into the vagina to ensure that there is enough length to hit the g spot. Bonus points go to double-ended or strapless dildo models that have a bulbous end. Experience a thrill with every thrust as the dildo hits the spot for both you and him!
Recommendations for Pegging Dildos
In reviewing the best pegging items for couples, below are some of the best product recommendations available on the market.
1. Doc Johnson Platinum The Gal Pal Strapless Strap-On Double Dildo 5 Inch
For exciting, hands-free pegging play, try the Doc Johnson Strapless Strap On, which offers 5 inches of insertable fun for the receiver! The Doc Johnson brand provides a variety of great toys, and we love the design of this silicone dildo with a substantial-end for the woman.
Both the circumference and insertable length measure at 5 inches, while the bulbous, penetrative end is 10 inches long. Slip it in for strapless enjoyment, or you can even peg your partner manually with this item. Also, the price point offers a great start for beginners.
Earlier, we had mentioned the Doc Johnson pegging kit as an option for couples who like to mix and match their pegging accessories and toys. This incredible bundle is awesome for those who have this sexual activity and want to expand their toy collection.
If you want to continue to create awesome experiences, this set will offer some of the best pegging items and accouterments. Your set will include o-rings, different shaped dildos, an adjustable harness, and a toy cleaner. While we'd prefer dildos made of silicone versus plastic, this set does offer an incredible value.
We love this pegging dildo set, as it is perfect for couples who are new to this practice. The 5-inch dildo is made of soft silicone, offering a slight curve for easy, p-spot, and g-spot penetration. The harness is both adjustable and machine washable, and there is even a small pocket to include a bullet vibe.
While there is a concern that the harness's polyester straps could chafe the user, the total sum of its parts makes this one of the best pegging kits for newbies.
This dildo is a great option for those who want to play either independently or with a partner. The suction cup dildo is fabulous for hands-free enjoyment. If you want to explore pegging sans a harness or another partner, practice yourself with this smooth, silicone model. Simply mount it to any solid surface and assume the position!
The curved end is angled to provide p-spot stimulation, and hypoallergic material is paired best with a water-based lube. Or pair this dildo with your favorite harness for intimate partner play.
Like the beginner kit, this strap-on-dildo bundle is perfect for couples who want to get the best value with their pegging toys. While a bit pricier than the beginner kit, the deluxe Lovehoney set offers two high-quality silicone dildos, which we actually prefer over plastic.
And like other kits, this pegging package comes with a harness, o-rings, and a toy cleaner. That said, while there are fewer dildos included in this kit, the toys' overall quality is better in comparison.
Conclusion
In reviewing the best dildos for pegging, we recommend the Lovehoney Deluxe Strap-On Harness Kit with 2 Silicone Dildos as the best pegging kit for couples. This product offers an equal amount of quality and value. Why get one pegging dildo when you can get two?
